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Mastering COVID-19 fatigue: Aspiration, Dedication and Motivation

By Michael Kimmel

11/19/2020
in Columns, Community Voices, Feature, Featured, Features, Life Beyond Therapy
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We’re in uncharted territory, brothers and sisters. None of us has ever lived through a pandemic before. And the news isn’t good: more and more people are getting the virus, hospitals are filling up as businesses and activities shut down.

It’s a rough time. My clients are more anxious than usual; it would be pretty strange not to be. “This (pandemic) has gone on for too long,” a client told me yesterday.

Indeed, we have COVID-19 fatigue and we’re tired of:

  • Mask-wearing.
  • Not having sex with hot guys/girls.
  • Isolation.
  • Not going to clubs, parties, concerts, raves, concerts, plays, performances.
  • Working from home.
  • Feeling lonely.
  • Being with our partner 24/7.
  • Gaining weight/eating as comfort.
  • Drinking too much (numbing our unhappiness).
  • Masturbating/watching too much porn.
  • Loss of income.
  • Loss of work.
  • Can’t go to the gym/yoga classes.
  • The end of COVID-19 seems so far away.
  • Sick of Zoom calls/meetings/workshops.
  • Afraid to get on an airplane or take a vacation.

I needn’t go on, you get the drift. With San Diego’s recent slide back into the purple tier, many of us are disheartened and discouraged, wondering: “When will this end?” As a psychotherapist, I hear this every day from my clients (I hear it in my own head, too).

But, we are strong, smart, creative people…we always come through. Looking back at history, we (eventually) triumph over dire circumstances. So, how can we do so now? I’d like to share a three-step approach that I use with my clients (and myself):

Step 1: Know what you want to do (aspiration)

Be very clear on your goal(s): write them down. For example:

  • I want to wear a mask whenever I leave the house.
  • I want to keep working out/doing yoga/exercising at home or outside.
  • I want to safely stay in touch with my friends, e.g., going for walks with them, meeting for lunch outside, using FaceTime or Zoom to see them regularly.
  • I want to do things that lift my spirits (watch great movies, read more, meditate, go outside, ride my bike, walk in my neighborhood, go for drives in the countryside).
  • I will be kind to my partner, even though we can drive each other crazy by being together so much.
  • I will spend more time with my beloved dog/cat/pet, giving and receiving love and affection.

Step 2: Commit to doing it (dedication)

Consciously make a commitment to doing what you decided in step 1. Take a few seconds each morning and repeat your goals, refreshing your intentions for the day. In these uncertain times, this is a very grounding and calming way to start the day.

Read your list throughout the day. I’ve taken the most helpful items on my list and put them on Post-its on the bathroom mirror (so I see them when I shave), next to my computer monitor, on the refrigerator, on the dashboard of my car…places where I’ll regularly be reminded of what it is I want to do.

Step 3: Find good reasons to do it (motivation)

Without motivation, the most wonderful intentions just fizzle out. We all need some kind of rewards for doing something difficult. How can you motivate yourself? Consider these suggestions:

  • I will reward myself with praise: “I wore my mask every time I went out this week: I did it, even though it was a drag. Well done!”
  • I will reward myself by buying myself something nice.
  • I will reward myself with delicious food/making a really nice meal.
  • I will reward myself by telling myself that I am contributing to the health of my community/city.
  • I will reward myself by getting support and praise from my friends to stay on task.

The pandemic isn’t over, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. A vaccine is coming and a Biden/Harris administration will bring sanity and science to COVID-19 leadership.

If COVID-19 fatigue is severely impacting your day-to-day life, please reach out to a mental health professional for support.

COVID-19 fatigue is real. I hope that the ideas in this column are helpful to you in mastering it and helping to bring the pandemic to an end…and soon!

 

—Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.

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